Boys!

I am not a therapist or a relationship expert, but I’m gonna vent a little on the men…ok, boys that I’ve been around lately that seem to be drawn to me.  I don’t remember having these issues ever before.

Type #1-the party boy.  Anyone who knows me knows this is not my type.  Yes, I like to go out, but rarely do I drink or stay out all night long.

Type #2-the couch potato.  I am not a fitness freak, but I can’t stand when someone does NOTHING.  Active guys are totally hot.  My first boyfriend played basketball, baseball, and ran track.

Type #3-the fling.  Sorry dudes, I am very conservative and that ain’t my thing.

Type #4-the opposite.  Sorry, but if you are completely opposite of me in every form and fashion, it’s not going to work.

Type #5-the financial dummy.  If you can’t manage your money, you won’t be able to manage handling me.

Type #6-the scumbag.  Sorry guys, I have high standards.

Type #7-self centered.  I like when you like you, but you need to not always focus on yourself.

Type #8-the kind that won’t take a hint.  If I say I have a boyfriend, please leave me alone.

And then there are those who are more than 1 of the above.  Those are the ones that love me.   Because i’m a nice person, I won’t explain my example there.  If you know me well enough, you know more than you probably care to 😉

20 qualities for marriage

Where was this article several years ago?

http://elitedaily.com/women/20-qualities-the-person-youre-going-to-marry-should-have/

Also probably a good reminder of why I will never get married.

Speaking of that.  There is an inside joke among work friends that I will end up the crazy old cat lady.  We all know it won’t be true. Today at the part-time job, I helped the crazy old cat lady.  It made me very sad for her.  And me.  I don’t want to be that lady!

Is it ironic I am going outside to plant flowers while my cats watch?  Yeah.

The relationship with yourself

A little borrowed wisdom from one of my favorite blogs:

“The most important relationship you’ll ever have is with yourself.”

If that one isn’t healthy, none of your others will be. You need to value yourself enough to not settle for less than you deserve. To look at a situation that is not bringing you what you need out of life, and be able to say “I deserve better, dammit.” To walk away from what doesn’t make you happy or grow you as a person.

It has been said that we only accept the love we think we deserve, but the beautiful part about your thoughts is that you can control them, they don’t have to control you.

You can be happy, if only you decide to be.

~James Michael Sama